Self is one’s consciousness of his/her identity/personality, while motivation is an act or process of being inspired and stirred to action. Hence, self-motivation is the state or process where one moves him/herself to action. It is a process of not needing anyone to push you. A state where you’ve got to come to terms with the fact that all you’ve got is you. A state where you look beyond the economy of your country, the system of education, the lack of money in your family, the fact that your peers are already making it, etc, and tell yourself that you’ve got to move forward no matter what.
For this post, I may be spiritual about it, but I’m also going to be as logical as possible. You are free to agree or disagree.
I’m not going to write the story of my life here, but I will give some hints based on that. Growing up, I wasn’t born with a silver spoon in my mouth, nevertheless, we weren’t ‘wretched’ either. However, I had the best parenting ever, and great siblings. As an undergraduate, due to inadequate financial assistance, I seldom bought textbooks/handouts, but I graduated with second class honors (Upper Division). If my memory serves me right, the only time I bought textbooks was for few courses of which, if you do not buy it, you’d probably fail the course or something and it wasn’t up to four books.
I remember my elder sister would call me on the phone go, “you see this money is for your feeding not for books, it is only the living that can go to school.” Funny right? Well, it wasn’t easy.
Now in the midst of all these, what did I do? How did I survive? I know there are many people out there who had worse experiences, but this post is basically for the people who couldn’t rise or grow beyond that. It is for people who let the storms of life hold them back from becoming who they are destined to be.
Principles of Self-Motivation
1.Determine not to give up. Self-motivation starts, first with a conviction that you will never give up on yourself. Once you give up, every other effort is a waste of time. If you haven’t come to the point where you have determined to move forward: to move away from or past your limitations whether emotional/spiritual/financial/physical, you are not ready for the next step.
2.Face your past. What exactly do I mean? By facing your past, you need to come to terms with it. If you lost someone who is very important to you/your cause, you lost resources, you had terrible experiences like child abuse, sexual molestation, etc you need to face it. It happened. Nevertheless, where is it? All in the past. Facing your past also means dealing with your fears: those things you are afraid to even talk about. You need to find a way to face them and conquer them. If you need to go for therapy, counseling, medical checkup, etc. do whatever you have to, to let it go.
3.Pray. I don’t know what or who you believe in, but what I am doing with this post is to share what works for me. I mean I have had my own share of challenges, trials, and tribulations on earth. I’ve had times when I thought God was too far away. I’ve had times when the pain was so strong that crying was not enough to relieve me…I even thought of suicide once. Yes, I confess. Nevertheless, how did I get through? It was through prayer.
4.Study the Word of God and relevant books/articles. No matter how dark the night, there was always light at the end of the tunnel was a constant reminder. He will neither leave me nor forsake me (Joshua 1:5). Trust in the Lord (not your parents/uncles/siblings/friends/spouse/lover, etc) with all your heart (Proverbs 3:5). These and many more scriptures are major backbones for me. Do you need words of encouragement? There is a word for you for any situation you find yourself in, in the Bible. All you’ve got to do is study it.
5.Meditate. Take some alone time. It could mean traveling to a place where you’d have time for yourself or lock yourself up in your house/room and take some time to reflect deeply (not in a self-destructive way) on the state of affairs in your life. Tip: focus on where you’ve been, where you are, and where you are heading to or where you want to be. You can make it fun, draw a map or chart (mood board). Just check out of life till you figure out how to get to the next level.
n/b: as you meditate, be alert as God may decide to speak to you at such times.
6.Surround yourself with the right people. I am sure you’re wondering who the right person is? Well, I mean people who put a smile on your face. This only out of necessity, If you think you need a shoulder to lean on and stuff like that. You don’t need haters, fake friends, unreliable acquaintances, etc. you need only people who genuinely care about you and mean well for you. Those are the people you need to surround yourself with. Hangout, party if you can, have fun, and get your shine back on!
7.Set goals. This a time to plan, nevertheless, do not limit yourself to these plans. Planning gives you a perspective of what lies ahead and how you are going to achieve your goals.
8.Dive into the action. This is it! This is the real deal. The Bible lets us know that “faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.” (Hebrews 11:1)Hence, having a great plan with no intention of doing anything with it is just another not on a sheet of paper.
My pastor once said, “No one owes you the responsibility to make you relevant.” I agree with that and I will rephrase it by saying, “No one owes you the responsibility to make you successful.” While it seems like that is the responsibility of our parents, but I’m sure you’d agree that there are so many people from rich homes with influential parents who are still unsuccessful. There is a difference between our money and my money. While having the support of your family and friends goes a long way to push us, the decision to become successful must be first borne in us for others to even see the need to help. Success is something you must desire and pursue to get results. You owe it to yourself to stay motivated to achieve your goals.
I hope this post was helpful to you.
Which of these tips relates to you?