I think every content creator, entrepreneurs, even people who are holding down a full-time 9-5 job pass through this stage at some point. This year was quite filled with moments of despair and frustration that I had thoughts of quitting several times. One of the major factors that made me think of quitting was my relationship status. I was so unhappy. it felt like a chore faking ‘being happy’ and like everything was good here and on social media generally. it was difficult because as a blogger, my life is also part of my story, but this particular story was something I was not sure I should share with my audience.
Those were terribly depressing days and I barely held on. The second factor was all the deaths and terrible things happening in my country… the state of the nation is so depressing and as though nothing works. The fact that people are barely hanging on and are able to put a smile up despite all the problems was becoming quite depressing. I always thought, “How can I be writing and talking about clothes when people are being massacred in the north? I just couldn’t wrap my head around it… Finally, funds! funds! funds! Running a fashion blog is quite demanding… that’s what most bloggers may not share with you. in fact, in a sense, it is quite difficult and almost impossible to be a successful blogger if you don’t have ENOUGH money buy clothes. You have to budget money for clothing, makeup, shoes, bags, etc. at least monthly to run a successful fashion blog, if not, you won’t seem serious, especially to brands. Even when people want to collaborate with you, most times, especially in Nigeria, they don’t want to pay you, and they won’t even give the products free. So they want you to create FREE content with their product or service THAT YOU PAID for.
Considering I’m a single mom, with barely enough income to take care of my dependents and myself, I don’t have enough money to spend on clothes and makeup every single month! In fact, unlike me, I have barely bought any new makeup product this year… I’m not ashamed of it. I am working on improving my finance. it is not a permanent situation… I am work-in-progress.
As an influencer, though you don’t owe no one anything, however, sometimes sharing… may be not all, but a part of your story inspires others. It shows them that you are real. It shows that you have real problems just like other people do. Gone are the days of making life on social media look so perfect that some people wonder if something is wrong with their stars or destiny.
I stayed appreciative for my baby, and my sisters have been my rock… very supportive and encouraging me to keep pushing… and grateful to God for even making it easier… a lot of people come out of relationships totally beaten down, some come out with physical damages and even psychological breakdown… worse, death. But God made mine easy and smooth., and still planted me among loved ones to help me heal and regain happiness and self-confidence.
So that’s basically it. Don’t get it twisted, NO ONE’S LIFE IS PERFECT! If Kim Kardeshian can be held at gun point, and Cardi B. will throw shoes at Nicki Minaj, it goes to show that everything is not about money or your social status.
For every stage in life, there will be challenges. Asking God for the grace and strength to pull through them is what is most important… and we always come out strong.